All posts tagged: metastate

Where Do I Belong?

Metastate is about honoring each other’s stories, no matter how different, and creating a more complete picture of our hopes, our fears, our dreams. We’ll share our conversations here and invite you to add your voices to the discussion. Pull up a chair and join us as we recount the stories and lessons of our lives… Maryn:  I’m curious, have you ever felt like you were part of a community? Surrounded by people who were really your kind of people? Darree:  I’ve been thinking about this question since last night and I want to say yes, but to be honest, I’ve never really felt like I was understood. Being understood is a huge part of whether I feel connected to something or not. Even when people have nodded to my opinions, interests, choices and questions, I always had a feeling that they were secretly thinking, “She’s weird.”  Maryn:  I know what you mean. I have been a part of some groups where I felt like I could “play along.” I had fun and shared certain things about myself, but as you say, I didn’t feel …

Full Circle

It has been an amazing journey so far. We rekindled a friendship sparked 20 years ago. We revisited people and places from our childhood. We reconnected with a certain joy misplaced over the years. Thank you for making this first chapter so special. 5,000 miles, ten cities, thirty conversations, and we have only just begun…Cheers to more adventures in 2015! 

First Year

Metastate is about honoring each other’s stories, no matter how different, and creating a more complete picture of our hopes, our fears, our dreams. We’ll share our conversations here and invite you to add your voices to the discussion. Pull up a chair and join us as we recount the stories and lessons of our lives… Darrée:  When I reached out to you this past May, I wasn’t expecting a collaboration of this magnitude. Now 7 months later, I’m astounded by the amazing people we met, our growing number of interviews, and the hopeful beginnings of a documentary film. In retrospect, I was hungry for creative collaboration and this project has already nourished me in so many ways. I know you’ve collaborated with others on creative endeavors in the past. How has this experience been different? Maryn:  This one felt so personal, like it was helping me get past a difficult time in my life. It was very “meta,” so to speak. Through doing this project, I was discovering things I could apply to my own life and the experience itself was …

Find Your Voice

We have many voices in our heads. From our mothers to the magazines we read, it’s hard to untangle those dialogues from our own desires and judgments. How do we reconnect with our own true voice, that whisper that has been drowned out by all the louder voices over the years? Visit CAKOHI for a special collection inspired by finding your strength within. During our Metastate Chapter 1 journey, we met a former opera star. As we conducted the interview, she remarked that we weren’t speaking from our diaphragms. Our voices needed more support she said. She had us both stand up and put a belt around our waists. Can you feel it expand as you breathe in and out? Yes, we said. She instructed us to keep our vocal cords open and allow our voices to fall out of our mouths like a yawn. After our voice lesson, we practiced singing in the car and noticed how our voices sounded deeper and fuller. We began to wonder if the strain came from a lack of …

The Dream

We all inherit certain expectations for our future. Many of us grew up with the idea that we could do or be anything and that would somehow manifest into a vision of success and security. For many of us owning a home, attaining a lifelong career and family life seems increasingly out of reach. This American Dream is becoming more of a mirage than a reality. How do we begin to carve out a new vision for ourselves? How can we redefine our expectations to bring more purpose into our lives? How do we rewrite the dream?

Departures

We just returned from our first trip on this Metastate journey. 5,000 miles, ten cities, and 20 conversations later, we are still in a state of disbelief. We sat down with those who shaped our lives – a childhood mentor, the founder of our elementary school, a favorite teacher, a best friend, a college roommate, our mothers. From sage advice to voice lessons to tearful moments of recognition, this trip has been unforgettable. After years of silence and compromise, we embark on this new path to reconnect with those who touched us and to rediscover forgotten parts of ourselves. During a time that most would call a “midlife crisis” or “breakdown,” we both woke back up to life. We’re moving outside our comfort zone, the stale yet familiar place we’ve called home, and taking that first step to rewrite our dreams. The other night we were discussing the meaning of metastate and something finally clicked. We are always in metastate no matter if we’re at a job we hate or chasing the dream we think we …