All posts tagged: identity

Something to Prove

Becoming an Adult & Having Something to Prove Connor – 24, Pacifica, CA Metastate:  What comes to mind when you hear the words “American Dream”?  Connor:  Honestly, not much. The American Dream is more relevant for past generations. Kids these days live in an already discovered world. There’s not that same danger of venturing into the unknown that inspires huge leaps of faith. But, there are remnants of it still in existence. That part of the dream — working your tail off to get what you want — is still here.  Metastate:  Was there a particular experience or individual that had an impact on you? Connor:  My fraternity brother in college known for his drunken rants and aggressiveness told me one night that I wasn’t investing in myself. At the time, he was right. From that moment on, I stopped fooling around and started looking seriously at my future. Metastate:  When was the last time you made a change?  Connor:   I made a change simply to become better. Every morning I wake up and talk to my higher powers. I’m not sure …

Beyond “Type”

Metastate is about honoring each other’s stories, no matter how different, and creating a more complete picture of our hopes, our fears, our dreams. We’ll share our conversations here and invite you to add your voices to the discussion. Pull up a chair and join us as we recount the stories and lessons of our lives… Maryn:  In my lifetime I’ve been a tomboy, a girly girl, an intellectual, an athlete. I was in the Model UN, a beauty pageant, a corporate job, a creative job…always struggling to fit in, but never quite succeeding. How has your identity evolved over the years?  Darrée:  For a long time I struggled to fit into one archetype – whether it was nerd, misfit, or granola eating tree hugger. It wasn’t until college that I discovered I could be all of those things. I said a big screw you to societal expectations and let my flowy dresses coexist with my volleyball uniform; I sprawled out my paintbrushes next to my guitar and I’m all the more sane because of it.  Maryn:  How did you give up that social striving and …

Find Your Place

Sometimes we must go in search of a place where we belong. It is not always our hometown or the family we are born into. We may find our kind in a new city thousands of  miles away or in an unexpected encounter at our local coffee shop. No matter where we end up, we should not lose hope. Families, communities, and support systems are made everyday. We only need to seek them out.          E.G. is a professor in the Art Department at the University of California, Santa Cruz and the first Artist-in-Residence for the GLBT Historical Society. ALL: A Lesson Learned is a candid glimpse into one person’s moment of discovery. Each month we’ll highlight a lesson or two from the conversations we’ve had. We’re excited to share these bits of wisdom from unlikely places.