All posts tagged: chapter 1

Choose Love

We live in a culture of fear. Many of the decisions we make are out of a desire to escape harm or uncertainty. We mask our deeper yearnings with unnecessary layers that we think will protect us, but actually keep us from being seen for who we really are. We can stand back in the shadows and armor up before we walk out the door, or we can step into the light and fully open up to what is in front of us. The choice is ours. We can continue to live in fear or we can tear down the walls and rebuild with love. Dais is a self-proclaimed “Chief Aloha Officer.” He loves smiling at strangers and catching waves on the beautiful beaches of Southern California. ALL: A Lesson Learned is a candid glimpse into one person’s moment of discovery. Each month we’ll highlight a lesson or two from the conversations we’ve had. We’re excited to share these bits of wisdom from unlikely places.

Find Your Gift

Many children struggle in school. If they don’t have an affinity for math or reading, they feel that they have no way to be successful and many end up lost in the system. We were lucky because we went to a school that embraced our unique talents from a young age. Whether we were an excellent stagehand in the school play or could recite the alphabet backwards, we were made to feel that we were good at something. We had special days where each child sat in front of the class and listened to the teachers and students express what was special about them. Although that was over 20 years ago, I’m pretty sure every child remembers their special day. BJ was a founding teacher at Open Magnet Charter School and has dedicated her life to helping children find their gifts. ALL: A Lesson Learned is a candid glimpse into one person’s moment of discovery. Each month we’ll highlight a lesson or two from the conversations we’ve had. We’re excited to share these bits of wisdom …

Find Your Voice

We have many voices in our heads. From our mothers to the magazines we read, it’s hard to untangle those dialogues from our own desires and judgments. How do we reconnect with our own true voice, that whisper that has been drowned out by all the louder voices over the years? Visit CAKOHI for a special collection inspired by finding your strength within. During our Metastate Chapter 1 journey, we met a former opera star. As we conducted the interview, she remarked that we weren’t speaking from our diaphragms. Our voices needed more support she said. She had us both stand up and put a belt around our waists. Can you feel it expand as you breathe in and out? Yes, we said. She instructed us to keep our vocal cords open and allow our voices to fall out of our mouths like a yawn. After our voice lesson, we practiced singing in the car and noticed how our voices sounded deeper and fuller. We began to wonder if the strain came from a lack of …

Take the Leap

One of the hardest parts about making a change is the resistance we may face from those closest to us. Anytime we try something new, we upset the familiar order of things and sometimes that makes others uncomfortable. But at the end of the day, we are accountable for our own decisions. When we look back at our experiences, we want to make sure we are living lives of our own making and not living someone else’s version. Christine traded her stressful career in healthcare administration to become a teacher. She is going back to school and has never been happier. ALL: A Lesson Learned is a candid glimpse into one person’s moment of discovery. Each month we’ll highlight a lesson or two from the conversations we’ve had. We’re excited to share these bits of wisdom from unlikely places.

The Dream

We all inherit certain expectations for our future. Many of us grew up with the idea that we could do or be anything and that would somehow manifest into a vision of success and security. For many of us owning a home, attaining a lifelong career and family life seems increasingly out of reach. This American Dream is becoming more of a mirage than a reality. How do we begin to carve out a new vision for ourselves? How can we redefine our expectations to bring more purpose into our lives? How do we rewrite the dream?

Departures

We just returned from our first trip on this Metastate journey. 5,000 miles, ten cities, and 20 conversations later, we are still in a state of disbelief. We sat down with those who shaped our lives – a childhood mentor, the founder of our elementary school, a favorite teacher, a best friend, a college roommate, our mothers. From sage advice to voice lessons to tearful moments of recognition, this trip has been unforgettable. After years of silence and compromise, we embark on this new path to reconnect with those who touched us and to rediscover forgotten parts of ourselves. During a time that most would call a “midlife crisis” or “breakdown,” we both woke back up to life. We’re moving outside our comfort zone, the stale yet familiar place we’ve called home, and taking that first step to rewrite our dreams. The other night we were discussing the meaning of metastate and something finally clicked. We are always in metastate no matter if we’re at a job we hate or chasing the dream we think we …