Motherhood and a Dream Renewed
Eden – 40, Washington, D.C.
Metastate: Have you ever felt as though you were living up to expectations that were not your own?
Eden: Everyone has an opinion about my life, especially family. I was pushed to keep going back to school to obtain degrees, whether it helped me to do what I wanted or not. I eventually distanced myself from my family and community because none of them thought I could succeed. Even today, they are surprised by my success.
Metastate: Was there a time when you began to question their expectations?
Eden: I always questioned people’s expectations of me whether good or bad. My voice may not have been big or strong, but I protested in my own way. I rebelled against what others felt my life should look like.
Metastate: Do you remember the moment when you began to live life on your own terms?
Eden: Once I moved to Washington, D.C. it was clear that I was taking steps to be my own person. Even moving to New York for graduate school; these were all decisions I made without the support of my parents. I was taking better care of myself and developed relationships with people from different cultural and spiritual backgrounds. I began to break out of my own narrow belief system that I had inherited growing up.
Metastate: You recently made some significant changes in your life including starting a non-profit and deciding to debut your singing career. What led you to those decisions?
Eden: So many women have shared regrets about their life due to the responsibilities of marriage and children. As I approached my 40th birthday, all of my fears and dreams began to overwhelm me. I have always been a singer, but never had the confidence to pursue it professionally.
Many moms put everything aside for their children, but I felt I could have both. My children need to see me living my dreams. I want them to see me being fearless, being creative, and being disciplined. I work very hard to meet their needs and desires, but recognize that I am not a complete person if I’m not fulfilled.
Metastate: What do you see as the next chapter of your life?
Eden: I want to share my art with the world. I want to perform my music on stage, have a solo exhibition of my artwork, and write a book. I also want to see my non-profit make a huge impact in my community.
Metastate: If you had one message to share with the world, what would it be?
Eden: Disappointment is relative to your existence. Press on with the knowledge that your personal belief in yourself is enough and adversity is a stepping stone to your destiny. Nothing good or valuable comes easy. Think about the earth’s precious metals, diamonds and gold. You have to work extremely hard to find them. There are many days you come up empty, but you must persevere.
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