Becoming an Adult & Having Something to Prove
Connor – 24, Pacifica, CA
Metastate: What comes to mind when you hear the words “American Dream”?
Connor: Honestly, not much. The American Dream is more relevant for past generations. Kids these days live in an already discovered world. There’s not that same danger of venturing into the unknown that inspires huge leaps of faith. But, there are remnants of it still in existence. That part of the dream — working your tail off to get what you want — is still here.
Metastate: Was there a particular experience or individual that had an impact on you?
Connor: My fraternity brother in college known for his drunken rants and aggressiveness told me one night that I wasn’t investing in myself. At the time, he was right. From that moment on, I stopped fooling around and started looking seriously at my future.
Metastate: When was the last time you made a change?
Connor: I made a change simply to become better. Every morning I wake up and talk to my higher powers. I’m not sure if I believe in “God”, but I speak to my higher powers — my late loved ones and friends — and thank them for another day. I ask them to watch over me and guide me, my friends, loved ones, and their loved ones too. Then, I smile and say a few words about who I want to be that day. I’ll say, “I am confident. I am compassionate. I am collected. I am hardworking.” I keep going until I run out of things to say. It is really amazing. I can’t remember a time when I woke up in a bad mood.
Even on days when I doubt where I am going with my life, it makes it easier to smile.
Metastate: What was one of the most challenging periods for you?
Connor: I was hurt by a girl who backstabbed me. Although I was not loyal to her and arguably deserved it, it hurt a lot and made me realize what type of people I want in my life. I want to be surrounded by stand-up people who are intelligent, have integrity, and take the time to invest in themselves and the people around them.
Metastate: What is the most important question you ever asked yourself?
Connor: Who do you want to be? Not what do you want to be. I think knowing who you want to be is more important to discover first.
Metastate: What’s next for you?
Connor: Hopefully beginning my first career. After years of underachieving and wasting my potential, knowing how much farther I could be in life if I had invested in myself at a younger age, that drives me every single day. I call them wasted years, but really those years of struggle make me who I am today. I do have something to prove. A couple years ago, I made a promise to myself. Every time somebody sees me, I will be better than I was when they last saw me. A better person, a better professional, in better health, with better relationships. I can honestly say that over the last year, I have fulfilled that promise and I do not plan to stop.
Metastate: If there was one message you could get out into the world right now, what would it be?
Connor: Ambition is underrated. Be insanely ambitious.
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