We just returned from our first trip on this Metastate journey. 5,000 miles, ten cities, and 20 conversations later, we are still in a state of disbelief. We sat down with those who shaped our lives – a childhood mentor, the founder of our elementary school, a favorite teacher, a best friend, a college roommate, our mothers. From sage advice to voice lessons to tearful moments of recognition, this trip has been unforgettable.
After years of silence and compromise, we embark on this new path to reconnect with those who touched us and to rediscover forgotten parts of ourselves. During a time that most would call a “midlife crisis” or “breakdown,” we both woke back up to life. We’re moving outside our comfort zone, the stale yet familiar place we’ve called home, and taking that first step to rewrite our dreams.
The other night we were discussing the meaning of metastate and something finally clicked.
We are always in metastate no matter if we’re at a job we hate or chasing the dream we think we want. We’re always a work in progress even after we’ve reached some milestone like owning a house, having a baby or landing our dream job.
We’re forever and always in process and maybe that is why so many of us are frustrated. In the midst of searching for answers we forget that life is mostly this big question – this exploration.
We started to see life as perpetual metastate
origin journey discovery origin journey discovery
… and our own stories
connection independence freedom meaning connection
… and emotional journeys
joy strength sorrow joy strength sorrow joy
Each step that came before prepares us for the next thing. We feel joy which gives us the freedom to become strong and that strength helps us bear the sorrow, and so on. Maybe seeing life in this way, as a continuous cycle, helps us get through the hard times because we see it as a natural point in the process and we can find hope in knowing that joy, discovery, meaning and connection will make their way around to us again.
Some of our friends recently shared with us that they believe in our project and feel they are in metastate. They understand what it is, and we think we finally do too.
Your friends in change,